How To Get HIM To Propose
Are you trying desperately to figure out how to get him to propose?
If you’ve been with your boyfriend for long enough to know he’s The One, but he isn’t making any moves towards commitment, then you’ve come to the right place.
Because this is my story of how I did everything wrong when it comes to how to get your boyfriend to propose, BUT there is a happy ending, with some ups and downs in between.
What doesn’t work if you’re trying to figure out how to get him to propose – and what does?
Let me tell you about the one thing that could have saved me a lot of worry and heartache in my goal to marry the man I really wanted. It didn’t exist yet at the time, but does now, and possibly it could help you get your boyfriend to propose soon, because you’ll know exactly what to say and do (and also what NOT to say and do) to get him eager to propose to you.
My boyfriend was the total package, or so I thought. But we’d been together a few years, and things didn’t seem to be going anywhere. He’d been badly hurt by his first wife (she’d cheated on him). But surely he knew by now that I wasn’t like that?
How To Get Him To Propose – What Doesn’t Work?
So I started a Get Him To Propose campaign. Leaving wedding magazines like Brides lying around. Hinting about the ring I wanted, where we might want to go for a honeymoon, and how much fun our wedding was going to be.
Asking about his plans to take a couple of courses and snag a promotion that was coming up where he worked.
Talking about the kind of house I’d like us to buy together, so we could get out of our too-small apartment.
When he pretty much ignored all of these points on my ‘how to get him propose to me’ plan, I tried just going ahead and planning the wedding on my own, thinking he’d get involved at some point.
It didn’t happen.
Meanwhile, friends had all sorts of suggestions for how to get him to propose. Try playing hard to get, they said. Or get more involved at work, and let him begin to miss being with you.
Some thought I should be more sneaky. One idea was to ‘pretend’ I’d hooked up with an old boyfriend. Or tell him I thought unless he made a move soon, we should probably break up.
I didn’t see any of that working, but the more I tried getting him to talk about his feelings about marriage, the more he just brushed it off.
And time was going by. I wanted to be getting married, buying a house, maybe even thinking about a baby in a year or two.
But the more I pushed, the more he pulled away – and then he dumped me.
There must have been signs, but I truly didn’t see it coming.
How To Get Your Boyfriend To Propose – And Share The Life You Dream Of
It would be several years – and several relationships – later that I finally did get married. By then, I knew a bit more about myself and also a bit more about the signs a man wants to marry you.
Just recently, I’ve come across a book by a couple of relationship coaches that could have saved so much heartache – and time wasted with a man I loved who was sending all the signs that he was never going to propose to me.
But, who knows, maybe I could have done things differently from the start. It could be that might have helped me save the first big love of my life and marry him, who knows?
The book is called Girl Gets Ring, and it’s written to help women figure out when he’s going to propose, and how to get him to propose if he’s not doing anything to move your relationship to that next level of commitment.
Men have a sort of internal traffic signal, the authors say in Girl Gets Ring. If there’s a red light, or it’s amber, something is still missing for him – he’s just not there yet. He can tell you he loves you, but if he’s not feeling that green light, he won’t propose.
Then they go on to tell you the four core feelings (since guys rarely talk about feelings, this is the place to get that laser vision into a guy’s head) that have to be there before his love-and-marriage light turns GREEN.
This book doesn’t tell you everything about men and how they think (that might end up being a lot to read). But it does translate the way men really think about asking their girlfriends to marry them.
You can check out what this book has to say on The Girl Gets Ring website.
You get a clear view of will he? or won’t he? and what you can do about it while there’s still time to save the relationship (if that’s what you want).
So if you do want to be part of your man’s life journey, how to get your boyfriend to propose may be the next step.
I hope this information about how to get him to propose has been useful as well as given you confidence that you CAN marry him, the man you’d love to share a future with, and there are proven methods to get him to want that, too.